Comments on: New Study on the Long-term effects of Spanking http://raisingourkids.com/blog/2008/03/being-a-parent/new-study-on-the-long-term-effects-of-spanking/ Moms using their Noodle! Opinions on parenting, shopping, national news, and more. Sat, 17 May 2008 05:09:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.2 By: Trevor Mardell http://raisingourkids.com/blog/2008/03/being-a-parent/new-study-on-the-long-term-effects-of-spanking/#comment-159 Trevor Mardell Mon, 31 Mar 2008 08:30:28 +0000 http://raisingourkids.com/blog/2008/03/being-a-parent/new-study-on-the-long-term-effects-of-spanking/#comment-159 It's all about language. Young kids do not have the verbal skills or the reasoning power to understand adult language, and hence body language, which they do understand is required. Implicitly they will recognise the facial look of displeasure, and where it is necessary, the quick smack on the hand or rear. A "smack" that leaves a permanent mark, or other damage is NOT a smack - it is abuse. Like adults yelling when quiet speech is all that is needed. Kids need limits, and when they cannot be reasoned with, then it is necessary, otherwise they grow up a mess. Like the warning on the pill bottles ..." if symptoms persist, seek the help of a professional". Same goes for kids. If you have to smack more than the odd occasion, then you need to get other help. Trevor It’s all about language. Young kids do not have the verbal skills or the reasoning power to understand adult language, and hence body language, which they do understand is required.

Implicitly they will recognise the facial look of displeasure, and where it is necessary, the quick smack on the hand or rear. A “smack” that leaves a permanent mark, or other damage is NOT a smack - it is abuse. Like adults yelling when quiet speech is all that is needed. Kids need limits, and when they cannot be reasoned with, then it is necessary, otherwise they grow up a mess.

Like the warning on the pill bottles …” if symptoms persist, seek the help of a professional”. Same goes for kids. If you have to smack more than the odd occasion, then you need to get other help.

Trevor

]]> By: Vickie http://raisingourkids.com/blog/2008/03/being-a-parent/new-study-on-the-long-term-effects-of-spanking/#comment-150 Vickie Sun, 16 Mar 2008 00:11:12 +0000 http://raisingourkids.com/blog/2008/03/being-a-parent/new-study-on-the-long-term-effects-of-spanking/#comment-150 This is just another thing that teaches our kids to be pansies. so many kids get spankin's growing up. i did and i am not some satomasochistic sex freak, i never conned anyone into have sex with me... kids need to know their limits and to much today parents are afraid of their kids and what they might say to someone about being diciplined. i believe in time-outs but i also believe that they don't always work. my mother in law came from a family that did not EVER spank but when she became a grandma she realized that sometimes it is a necessary evil as are many things in becoming a parent like telling your child NO! This is just another thing that teaches our kids to be pansies. so many kids get spankin’s growing up. i did and i am not some satomasochistic sex freak, i never conned anyone into have sex with me… kids need to know their limits and to much today parents are afraid of their kids and what they might say to someone about being diciplined. i believe in time-outs but i also believe that they don’t always work.
my mother in law came from a family that did not EVER spank but when she became a grandma she realized that sometimes it is a necessary evil as are many things in becoming a parent like telling your child NO!

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